Demean: The Destructive Power of Contempt and God's Call to Honour Every Person

To debase, degrade, or treat with contempt; to lower in dignity, rank, or character through insulting behaviour or attitudes that diminish another's worth. This destructive pattern stands in direct opposition to God's design for human relationships, where every person is created with inherent value and deserving of respect. When we engage in demeaning behaviour—whether through words, actions, or attitudes—we not only harm others but also resist God's purpose for our lives and communities.

Demeaning Behaviour Violates God's Design

All people have been made in the image of God who values everyone equally and desires to have a heart relationship with each person. This foundational truth establishes the basis for human dignity and provides the framework for how we should treat one another. However, humans do not always treat each other this way. In some countries, women are despicably treated; in others, people of different ethnicity or social standing are devalued, as are those with physical disabilities. Throughout Scripture, we see examples of demeaning behaviour: Joseph was scorned by his brothers (Gen 37:19), Samson was humiliated (Jdg 16:21), and the Jews were called feeble (Neh 4:1,2). Most profoundly, Jesus allowed Himself to be horribly insulted when He died in our place (Mk 10:34; 14:65; 15:16-20,29-30), demonstrating the ultimate response to demeaning treatment.

Understanding the Nature of Demeaning Behavior

Demeaning behaviour manifests in various forms—subtle condescension, overt insults, systematic discrimination, or casual disregard for others' feelings and worth. It often stems from pride, insecurity, fear, or a distorted view of one's own importance compared to others. The Bible consistently warns against such attitudes, reminding us that "God opposes the proud but shows favour to the humble" (Jas 4:6). When we engage in demeaning behaviour, we place ourselves in opposition to God's character and His design for human relationships.

The Biblical Mandate for Human Dignity

As believers, we are called to respect all people, especially those shunned by society and in the depths of sin. The gospel transforms this dynamic—through Christ, the demeaned can be raised up to be "seated with Christ in the heavenly places" with restored dignity and heightened self-esteem (Eph 2:6; Col 1:21). This transformation is not merely spiritual but practical, as we are called to demonstrate Christ's love through our actions toward others. When we lovingly reach out to those often overlooked by society, we are commended by Christ: "Whatever you did for one of the least of these…you did it for me" (Mt 25:34-46).

Rather than having an attitude of seeming superiority that judges the limitations and low expectations of others, we are called to encourage them to have confidence in their ability and assist them to reach their potential in Christ. This requires humility and a recognition that every person bears God's image, regardless of their current circumstances or social standing.

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Overcoming Superiority and Self-Degradation

Differences do not determine values; they make us uniquely who we are. Many arrogantly consider themselves superior to those not like them, viewing them as inferior. The Bible warns against this mindset: "Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought" (Rom 12:3). Jesus addressed this directly in the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector (Lk 18:9-14), demonstrating that God values humility over self-righteousness. We should respect all people, doing to them as we would like them to do to us—the golden rule for interpersonal relationships (Lk 6:31).

Equally important is the command not to devalue yourself or what God has and is doing in your life. Many believers struggle with feelings of unworthiness, often stemming from past experiences or ongoing struggles. However, Scripture assures us that God will bring to completion the good work He has started in us (Phil 1:6). Your worth is not determined by others' opinions or even your own failures, but by God's unconditional love and redemptive purpose for your life.

Practical Christianity in Action

Living out these principles requires intentional action. Practical Christianity means coming alongside those who are demeaned by society with genuine compassion and assistance. This might involve advocating for the marginalized, providing for those in need, or simply offering friendship to those who are lonely. The early church modeled this approach, breaking social barriers and demonstrating that in Christ, "there is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus" (Gal 3:28).

When we embody this kingdom perspective, we become agents of restoration in a broken world. Our interactions should reflect the reality that every person has inherent worth and potential in God's economy. This transforms how we speak to others, how we treat them, and how we view ourselves in relation to God and fellow believers.

See yourself as the Lord sees you – with great potential

Reflection and Application:

How have you witnessed demeaning behavior in your community or workplace, and what biblical principles can guide your response?
In what ways might you be unintentionally demeaning others through your attitudes or actions?
How does understanding your worth in Christ help you resist both self-degradation and the temptation to demean others?
What practical steps can you take this week to demonstrate respect and dignity to someone society often overlooks?