The Bible records, “When I was a child, I talked, thought and reasoned as a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me” (1 Cor 13:11). What is appropriate and right at one stage of life is not necessarily acceptable at the next for there should be a progression and correct responses in each period of our earthly existence. As we will

Being grown up should affect each aspect of our personality

answer for our life, endeavour to make decisions that will benefit eternity, and not regret the choices made, for we must live with the consequences of rash, unwise choices we have made, often during our adolescent years.

Even in adulthood we should continually be developing beyond our comfort zone. Till the day we die we should be still learning and growing – always viewing ourselves as ‘a work in progress’, never a perfect person, but one who is becoming more like Christ. Each day presents new opportunities to die to self and live for Jesus and share Him with others. Thus, we should be in close, accountable relationships to others, both giving and receiving godly input. As life is seldom easy maintain worthwhile friendships with others so you can walk through it together in a supportive manner. Also continually develop new connections as changing circumstances cause some relationships to diminish. Do I interact well and have meaningful conversations with different age groups?

Handle your responsibilities wisely and be disciplined, aware that temptation comes in a multitude of different ways, seeking to gain the advantage over us. Maintain godly principles and be accountable so that you live with integrity, avoiding hypocritical thinking or illicit soul-ties (Mt 5:28).

Being grown up involves taking responsibility

The so-called midlife crisis can be unsettling for your identity and self-confidence when you realise life is slipping by. Recognise that while you may not reach your goals, they have been something to aim for, helping you to provide for those dependent on you besides contributing to society through meaningful and legitimate employment, activities and involvement in God’s Kingdom. As you advance in years, it will be necessary to pace yourself – though the spirit is willing, the flesh increasingly does not have the vigour it once had. However, this can be an ideal time to pass on your acquired wisdom and insights by mentoring or speaking into the lives of younger folk.

What sort of legacy will we leave when our earthly time comes to an end? Have we been consistently depositing godly values through our words and lifestyle in the impressionable minds and hearts of our children and among those who we interact with? Is my character and reputation a good example of what Christianity looks like – the unsaved do not read the Bible but do observe how people who claim to follow Christ live their lives. 

See also: accountability, comfort zone, death, example, legacy, maturity, mentor, mid-life crisis, old age, parent/parenting, responsible/responsibility, soul-ties.