The golden rule is “Doing to another as we would like done to us” (Lk 6:31). There may come a time when the tables will turn and the
help may require aid (2 Cor 8:14). We should help those in need, offering assistance, gifts or aid as appropriate. Our compassion and faith must be outworked through loving actions not just intentions that are not actioned (Jas 2:15-18; 1 Jn 3:17).
Loving Godly wisdom is needed in both situations
self-sufficiency through an encouraging start or short-term assistance so they can get back on their feet, then continue to be motivated and empowered to manage without added assistance. Thus they will become self-reliant, able to cope without creating a long-term liability of expectancy, reliance and dependency on handouts. Give a man a fish (handout) and you feed him for a day, teach him how to fish (hand-up) and you feed him for a lifetime.
See also: benevolence, charity, compassion, dependence, empower, golden rule, good works, help/helper, needy, self-sufficiency, support, welfare.