We can confidently depend on God’s unfailing love for us – it provides security and peace knowing He is in control of our lives (Rom 8:38,39). Faith is dependence on Christ – for salvation and as we make our requests known to intervene in our situation, as well as relying on His enabling and ability in our daily lives. By means of prayer we acknowledge God's power, promises and provision as we submit to His will be outworked in and through us (Lk 22:42).
Jesus in His humanity said, “I can of my own self do nothing…I have come to do the Father’s will…My teaching is not my own. It comes from Him who sent me” (Jn 5:19,30, 6:38, 7:16). We also must recognise our limitations, that we can't do anything of eternal worth without Him yet conversly declare, “I can do all things [that He asks of me] through Christ who strengthens me” (2 Cor 1:9; Phil 4:13). This does not negate our obligation to co-operate with Him to bring about His purposes.
In humility and confidence rely on God’s enabling
of God (2 Cor 12:10). Problems should strengthen our relationship with God rather than drive us away from Him. “My help comes from the Lord” is a confident testimony (Ps 121:2). “I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation…you will answer” (Ps 5:3, 38:15; Phil 4:6). Humility is expressed in being fully dependent on God. ‘I need you Lord’ as it not in me to direct my steps (1 Chr 4:10; Jer 10:23). It’s only as we relate continuously with Him, like branches drawing from the vine, that lasting fruit can result (Jn 15:4,5,16). The Bible states it is better to rely on the Lord than put our confidence in human ability (2 Chr 32:8; Isa 31:1).
Being dependent on God is the safest place to be
and doing what is right while laying down our personal rights and taking up our cross (Lk 9:23; Rom 12:1). Our confidence and trust is in God rather than self.
With our fellow man, there should be a healthy balance between independence (not expecting others do what is our responsibility), and dependence by enlisting other people to help us. It is through inter-dependency, as people mutually reciprocate and enhance the strengths of others, that each becomes stronger and more whole. Relying on others through connection and serving is the ideal and beneficial way to develop interdependence in society, church and family as each person does their part to the best of their ability, rather than getting by with the minimum of effort and input (1 Cor 12:14-30). Stubborn independence is not right nor is domineering control.
We are to be our “brother’s keeper” mutually supporting one another in prayer, ministering to their needs, protecting and encouraging in the love of Christ – we need their help as they also need our assistance (Gen 4:9; Gal 6:2). Through interaction, integrity, accountability and faithfulness we should be able to depend on them as they also depend on us. Lazy people, like leaches, can suck the life out of others through a dependency culture – expecting others to do for them what they are capable of doing for themselves.
Co-dependency is when one person has an addiction (eg. alcohol or gambling) and another person is dependent on them in an unhealthy psychological way. It is controlling and manipulative with each focused on the others weakness, resulting in both becoming worse off emotionally.