God's standards always remain the same
and ultimate enjoyment. The only sexual relationship approved by God is one man married to one woman.
Normally a person slowly relaxes or compromises on their convictions and standards and so starts the downward spiral. Seeming innocent little seeds of sin that are allowed to take root grow into a menacing, demanding force that defies reason and logic, expecting its own selfish fulfillment. Lust starts with an evil thought (often initiated visually) and unless it is dealt with the evil desires within entice the person to sin, the final result of which is death and separation from God (Jas 1:13-15). Being seduced to act immorally is like “an ox going to slaughter or an animal getting caught in a trap, it will cost its life. It is playing with fire” (Prov 6:23-37, 7:1-27).
What issues do I need to address?
fire (1 Cor 5:2,9-11, 6:9-11; Eph 5:5; Rev 21:8, 22:15). With God’s help set and maintain clear boundaries; be self-disciplined and self-controlled. We are to put to death whatever belongs to the old nature; sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires... (Col 3:5-10). If you have crossed the line, humbly repent – this includes changing your lifestyle, seeking godly counsel and setting in place accountability measures. Do not let Satan cheat you out of eternity in heaven because of wrong sexual conduct. Let the Bible and the Holy Spirit touch the innermost areas of your thoughts, attitudes and desires to purify them. Do not adopt the world’s crumbling standards to blend in; instead remain firmly committed to His unchanging directives that result in blessing.
The body is not meant for sexual immorality – by indulging in this sin a person sins against their own body which is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor 6:12-20). “Eyes full of adultery...lusting after what is not yours” – Jesus says even the thought is wrong and not just the physical action (Mt 5:27,28; 2 Pet 2:14). Immorality often destroys a relationship. Sex before marriage undermines the trust, genuine love and self-control that should be shown. Many marriages are destroyed by infidelity or unfaithfulness by one partner. Protect your integrity and character because once it is shattered it cannot be fully restored.
See also: accountability, adultery, bestiality, boundaries, fornication, homosexuality, imagination, integrity, lust, morals/morality, pornography, prostitution, self-control, sensual, sexual sins, temptation, thinking/thoughts.