Discretion: The Art of Wise and Thoughtful Living

A mature and sound insight or ability to avoid words, actions, and attitudes which could result in undesirable consequences, characterised by a cautious, reasoned plan, thoughtfully considering possible outcomes and so speaking fitting words and acting with integrity.

Understanding Discretion in Daily Life

Impulsive words and actions often hurt people and damage relationships (1 Chr 12:32; Prov 5:1,2, 10:32, 11:3). In contrast, a person lacking discretion often rushes in without knowing the facts, is careless, irresponsible and is easily lead into sin with the Bible warning against this behaviour (Eccl 5:1-7).

God gave us brains to use

Instead of using their brains to make sound choices by searching for wisdom and insight, a person not exhibiting discretion has a loose tongue and gossips instead of keeping confidence (Prov 2:1-6, 11:12-13; Lk 14:28-33). Wise counsel needs to be given in an emotionally explosive situation: "Consider carefully…For if their purpose or activity is of human origin, it will fail. But if it is from God, you will not be able to stop these men, you will only find yourselves fighting against God" (Act 5:33-42).

Biblical Examples of Discretion

Abigail, who later became the wife of King David, was praised by him for her discretion in defusing a situation in which he was about to make a serious unwise action; "Blessed be your discretion, and blessed be you, who have kept me this day from bloodguilt and from working salvation with my own hand!" (1 Sam 25:33). Abigail's good sense made David look wise rather than foolish. Later, David prayed that God will give discretion and understanding to Solomon when he becomes king, so that Solomon would keep God's law (1 Chr 22:12).

Wisdom in Action

The Protective Power of Discretion

Discretion keeps our minds and focus on sound judgment, living a God-honouring life (Rom 12:2,9, 14:19,22). The book of Proverbs gives insight into this desirable quality. Living with discretion guards a person, prevents disaster and adultery for it indicates wisdom, allowing them to be patient and being aware of danger avoid it (Prov 2:11, 3:21-26, 5:3-8, 8:10-14, 19:11, 22:3).

Reflection and Application:

Consider situations where you may have spoken too quickly without thinking—how could discretion have changed the outcome?
Reflect on times when someone else's discretion protected you from making a poor decision or saying something regrettable.
Practice pausing before responding in emotionally charged situations, allowing time for wise and thoughtful consideration.
Seek counsel from trusted, wise individuals before making significant life decisions, following the biblical pattern of seeking wisdom.