Courtesy: The Christian Expression of Respect and Honour
Courtesy encompasses the attitudes and behaviours that demonstrate respect, honour, and consideration for others. As followers of Christ, our expressions of courtesy flow from our understanding of every person's inherent dignity as created in God's image and our desire to reflect Christ's character in all interactions.
Biblical Foundation of Courtesy
As Christians, we are called to act as Jesus did, with integrity, respecting and valuing others, "submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ...Showing proper respect to everyone" (Eph 5:21; 1 Pet 2:17). This biblical mandate establishes courtesy not as mere social etiquette but as a spiritual discipline that reflects our relationship with Christ and our understanding of His lordship over all relationships.
Our words and behaviour reveal our character and manners. The golden rule of treating people with dignity finds its ultimate expression in "Doing to them as you would they do to you" (Lk 6:31). Jesus emphasized this principle through His teaching that whatever we do (or don't do) to others is in fact doing it (or not doing it) to Him (Mt 25:40,45). This profound connection transforms courtesy from optional social grace to essential Christian obedience.
Am I treating others as I would want to be treated?
The Contrast with Worldly Attitudes
In the last days people will lack courtesy, being lovers of themselves, yet this attitude should not be embraced by Christians (Rom 12:10; Phil 2:3; 2 Tim 3:1-2; Jas 1:19; 1 Pet 3:8). Rather than adopting the self-centered patterns of the world, God's children are called to a higher standard of interaction—one that reflects His character and priorities.
We are to be polite, showing respect to all people regardless of their status, background, or behavior toward us (1 Tim 5:1-2; Tit 3:2; 1 Pet 3:7). This includes demonstrating honour to elders, showing gentleness to the younger, and treating all with the dignity befitting fellow image-bearers of God. Such courtesy becomes a powerful testimony to the transforming work of Christ in our lives.
Does my speech reflect Christ's character?
Practical Expressions of Christian Courtesy
Christian courtesy manifests in various practical ways: listening attentively when others speak, speaking words that build up rather than
tear down, demonstrating patience in frustrating circumstances, and showing honour to those whom the world might overlook. It involves
putting others' interests before our own (Phil 2:3) and considering how our actions affect those around us.
Does my courtesy extend to difficult people?
This courtesy extends to digital interactions as well, where the anonymity of communication can sometimes encourage harshness. Christians are called to maintain the same standard of respect and honour online as they would in face-to-face encounters, recognizing that our testimony extends to every platform of interaction.
Reflection and Application:
- Consider how your daily interactions demonstrate genuine courtesy versus mere social politeness
- Examine whether you treat all people with equal respect, regardless of their status or behavior
- Reflect on how viewing others as Christ's representatives changes your approach to courtesy
- Identify specific situations where you can practice Christ-like courtesy this week
See also: character, golden rule, integrity, manners, respect.